Millions of married women raise their children alone because their husbands are not available. Whether the cause of the husband’s absence is business, the military, ministry, study, illness, or hobbies, the effect is the same: a lonely wife and mother who faces a life more challenging than she had ever imagined.
Married Mom, Solo Parent: Finding God’s Strength to Face the Challenge helps Christian women deal with their emotions as well as the practical aspects of this lifestyle. And, unlike many who address this topic, author Carla Anne gives godly advice.
Her book is summed up in the challenge she says God has prepared for married solo moms:
for the married solo parent is to be
a woman whose heart seeks after God;
a wife who honors her husband and teaches her children to do likewise;
a mother who teaches her children how to
seek after God, honor him, obey him, and love him in all things
while practically caring for their needs,
all the while leaving room in the family for her husband to be
the man, husband, and father God created him to be.
Carla Anne candidly discusses the emotions of solo parenting including the danger of becoming emotionally divorced, and always points struggling women to God and away from self-pity. While discussing discipline, chores, celebrations, and needs, she freely acknowledges the sadness that accompanies this lifestyle but dwells on our calling to trust and honour God as well as to honour our husbands. It’s not easy, but it’s the life God has called many of us to live.
Carla Anne does not promote the worldly viewpoint that has led to countless divorces, even among Christians. Instead, she shows wives the narrow path, difficult but right, that leads to God’s blessing on their husbands, their children, and themselves.
Although the book contains other women’s stories, Carla Anne opens up about her own life as well. What’s more, the final insightful chapter was written by her husband.
How I wish this book had been available when my husband was always away! With God’s help, I struggled through those dark days as well as possible, discovering many of the truths presented in this book. I also made many mistakes that could have been prevented by Carla Anne’s book.
If you are a married solo mom, invest in your family, your marriage, and yourself: buy this book. By repeatedly pointing you to God, it will comfort and strengthen you to face the challenge He has given you. With all its practical advice, it will equip you to meet it.
I’ve discussed this book further here. For more on this topic, read my review of Father Hunger by Douglas Wilson, my review of The Reunion by Dan Walsh, and my review of The Wise Woman’s Guide to Blessing her Husband’s Vision.
You can check out other reviews on the LitFuse blog tour.
Disclosure: I received a free copy of Married Mom, Solo Parent from Litfuse in order to give you my honest opinion.
This is my 36th book in the 52 Books in 52 Weeks Challenge.