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Review: Career Exploration by Vicki Tillman

Career Exploration

As homeschooling parents of teens we are not only teachers; we are also guidance counsellors.  This is enough to frighten many parents but there are resources that make it easier. One of them is Vicki Tillman’s Career Exploration, a workbook that explores many aspects of a teen’s aptitudes, interests, and passions and helps translate them into possible career choices.

Of course, any sort of life planning should reflect one’s deepest values and beliefs, and that is how Career Exploration guides students.  As they go through this course, they are encouraged to ‘Remember that God has placed you here on earth for His purposes’ and reminded that ‘God will be using you wherever He places you to bring His Kingdom to life here on earth.’

Tillman begins by carefully navigating the tricky concept of ‘finding the will of God’, both by explaining it in a biblical, common sense way and by providing a helpful list of questions for students to answer.

The next few sections give insightful questions and checklists for teens to look objectively at themselves—their achievements, lifestyle values, strengths, and weaknesses.

Finally, after reflecting on all of the above information, teens are pointed to different sections of an enormous US government website and asked to answer detailed questions on a few of the careers they are interested in.  In order to really understand these careers, students are encouraged to try an apprenticeship or two.  Tillman provides paperwork to make this easier for both the teen and the future mentor.

College and career may seem a long way away for many teens, and many of them may have absolutely no idea what they are interested in, even after going through the self-assessments in this course.  Therefore Tillman encourages them to keep on trying new things both in life and in planning their high school curriculum.  I would also encourage them to repeat Career Exploration every year or two while following and broadening their interests.

The self-assessment section was very difficult for Miss 13 and Miss 15.  Thinking about who you are and what you want to do is not an easy thing, especially when you are that young.  Even so, it was a worthwhile activity.  The online explorations were easier for the girls and full of interesting information of all kinds.

To motivate my teens, I worked through some of the concepts with them, and I also explored the website.  Then I realized that there is one more aspect to this course:  Many homeschooling moms of teens are nearing the end of their homeschooling years, and they, too, may be wondering what to do during the next stage of their lives.  Vicki Tillman’s Career Exploration can help them as well, and encourage them that this is a time of new possibilities, not only of loss.

Career Exploration by Vicki Tillman is practical and, though it seems simple, requires a lot of effort from the student.  Teens who work through it carefully will have learned a lot about themselves and about possible options for their future.  Moms nearing the end of their homeschooling years can benefit from it as well.  This is one the simplest, least expensive, and yet most thorough guidance products available to homeschoolers and is something every homeschool family should explore.  You can purchase Career Exploration from 7 Sisters Homeschool.

For more about this aspect of homeschooling your teens, see You, Your Teen’s Guidance Counsellor or check out my many articles and reviews about different aspects of guidance counselling. 

For more encouragement see Raising Homemakers, Titus 2 Tuesday, Tell it to Me Tuesday, Finishing Strong, and Trivium Tuesdays.

Disclosure: I received a review copy of this workbook and, as usual, am not compensated for this review.

When Mom is Seriously Ill—Couch Schooling Attitudes

Love from a child, in the form of banana ice cream, chocolate chips, and frozen strawberries

Love from a child, in the form of freshly-made banana ice cream, chocolate chips, and frozen strawberries.

Two times in my life I’ve had a major health scare.  Eight years ago, a preliminary diagnosis gave me just a few months to live.  The second time was also a false alarm but it stopped me in my tracks none-the-less.  And that is why this article, which was meant to be a practical discussion of couch schooling, will be about Mom’s attitude instead.

Because it’s your attitude that matters in the long run.  If you are at peace with God and yourself and your situation, you will be able to find ways to make the practical details work out in your family’s unique situation.  If you are upset, stressed, or overwhelmed with negative emotions, nothing will go well.

So here are a few things to think about.

God never calls you do to more than he equips you to do.  If, for example, he has clearly not equipped you to leave the couch or has increased your need for sleep to 11 hours a day plus frequent rest breaks, then that has implications for what you should be trying to do.  So re-examine your goals and expectations.  You will most likely need to drop many things.  This will be painful, but it can also be a valuable chance to re-evaluate your priorities.

You will be cutting back, true, but there may even be other things you can and should add in.  Here’s a life-changing sentence from Hyatt’s new book Living Forward:  Ask yourself, “What does this experience make possible?”  I would add, “What does it make necessary?”

You will need to plan for as much healing as possible and this includes being thankful for what God has given you.  Yes, there are still good things even in the worst situation.  Even if you have received a death sentence, humanly speaking, there is a blessing in having time to prepare your children for this horrible event.  And if, as in my case years ago, the death sentence was premature, having pondered such things will change your life forever.

Look back and look forward, no matter why you are on the couch or how long you expect to be there.  Look back to what came before—the sickening crunch of breaking bones?  The soothing beeps and frantic bustle of the hospital? A positive pregnancy test?  An exhausting flu?   The never-ending grind of a chronic condition? Whatever it is, be comforted by this:  God knows it and has planned your way into—and through—these days. He loves you, and he can fix anything that would best be fixed but he won’t change things that are best not changed.  So, despite the pain it is all, somehow, good.  Someday we may understand, but remember, God didn’t tell Job the hidden story and he doesn’t need to tell any of us either.

Look forward.  You may be able to plan for the future, or anticipate it.  Even in the worst case scenario, you will go to God and, just as he has promised to be a father to the fatherless, he will also be a mother to the motherless. Prepare your little ones and your teens as well as you can with prayer and love, and your husband too. And live each day well, pointing them to God who is able to comfort them.

Or you may be looking forward to a long future on this earth.  Take the clarity that comes from being faced with your own limitations and plan wisely for that future.  Psalm 90 calls this numbering your days.

And be happyNotice and give thanks for the little gifts.  Rejoice in the bit of blue sky and the willow tree you can see from your pillow.  Treasure caring toddler caresses, even if you may not have the strength to give a hug in exchange. Enjoy time with loved ones, conversations, music, food prepared with love, good books if you have the strength to read them.  Give your family the gift of a wife and mother who is at peace.  Smile your love at them, even if there are tears in your eyes.

If God has made it impossible for you to do your usual tasks, enjoy the time off gratefully.  After all, how many people get to take days and weeks and months off from their everyday work?  This ‘vacation’ approach really helped my attitude when I was a long-term invalid years ago.

Be grateful to your caregivers and helpers and let go of your own way of doing things.  By their actions they are showing you their love; don’t you dare criticize this gift from their hearts!  It goes without saying that you let them know how thankful you are, and don’t take advantage of them.

Of course, none of this means giving up.  Plan for healing as much as possible.  Challenge yourself wisely.  Work diligently at getting well, whatever that means, but accept your current limitations with gratitude and good humor.

Finally, dear suffering mother, quiet yourself like a baby safe in its mother’s arms (Ps 131). Be at peace.  You are being taken care of, so don’t let worries flood your mind.  Yes, quiet yourself and be at peace. There is no need to fuss. And write this down somewhere, or everywhere:  “Be still and know that I am God” (Ps. 46:10), making sure you will be reminded of it every single day, or maybe even every hour.

And if, by your words and your attitude, you can transmit this confidence to your children, they will have learned the most valuable lesson you can ever teach them.  Everything else, from phonics to Shakespeare, from adding to algebra, from Dick and Jane to Homer, is extra.  Important, yes, but extra.

So keep on running to God, read your Bible, ponder verses such as Phil 4: 4-8 in the endless tossing hours of the night, talk to God through the Psalms, and then, somehow—I don’t know how it happens—you will be given the strength and peace to give thanks in all circumstances.  You won’t always be happy; you will still experience pain; fear will still gnaw at your heart.  But God will be with you through it all , and you and your family will be OK.

May God bless you and your family and your time of illness.

On a personal note, although I am currently facing some medical uncertainty, I am OK.  My activities are curtailed somewhat, but I am not on the couch and am getting stronger week by week.  And I’m learning, once again, to notice the many miracles God places on my path and, even more, to be grateful for the miracle of his love and nearness.

Please, dear friends, forward this to people who need it.  I currently do not have the energy to do this, although when I am able I will link to some of the following: Raising Homemakers, Titus 2 Tuesday, Tell it to Me Tuesday.

This is part of a series of occasional meditations  and devotional articles.

Review: The Last Ride by Susan Marlow

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I have never heard Miss 13, my reluctant reader, laugh and squeal her way through a book until she read The Last Ride by Susan Marlow.

Then she said, “Give it a good review, Mom!  It’s awesome!”

And a few days later she went back and read the best parts again, because it is so wonderful….

You see, Andrea Carter, now 15, and her beloved horse Taffy face a challenge in The Last Ride.  Cousin Daniel, of whom only Mother can say anything good, is coming to stay for a few months.  He has been getting into trouble, Andi and her sister discover unexpectedly, and his parents think the Carter ranch would be just the place to straighten him out.   And Aunt Rebecca, who disapproves of everything that Andi does, will bring him.

At first Andi, who is always getting into scrapes herself, thinks Daniel may be an exciting companion, but that hope is soon dashed.  He is worse than she could have imagined, and his behavior keeps on worsening until finally tragedy strikes….

I recommend you and your young teens read The Last Ride yourself to see what happened and why Miss 13 enjoyed it so much.

I did not enjoy The Last Ride quite as much as Miss 13 did, but that is probably because I was surrounded by the gentle beeping of hospital monitors while reading it.  Perhaps that is why I noticed the stress and tension while she only saw the humor and excitement.  Even so, I agree that it was a good book, well-written, exciting, and funny, with a strong Christian message woven in naturally.   I always appreciate that in Susan Marlow’s books.

I recommend The Last Ride as an exciting story for teens.  Horse lovers, old West buffs, and anyone else  will enjoy its excitement and humor and benefit from its message.

This is yet another book in the in the 52 Books in 52 Weeks Challenge and may also be linked to Saturday Reviews, Booknificent Thursdays, Literacy Musings Monday, What to Read Wednesdays and The Book Nook.  For more encouragement see Raising Homemakers, Titus 2 Tuesday, Tell it to Me Tuesday, and Finishing Strong.

Disclosure:  We received a review copy of this book from Kregel Books and have given our honest opinions.  We are not compensated for them.

So Thankful to be Back!

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One week ago.

Thank you, dear friends, for your encouragement and prayers.  I have rested and feel much better.  Medical testing is still going on, and though I was afraid at first, God has replaced the fear with trust and even joy.

We had a lovely March Break.  The girls made chocolates and friendship bracelets and hemmed a St. Patrick Day’s tablecloth.  Miss 15 visited Augustine College’s Student for a Day, and the next day she attended a class at a local university with her sister.

We enjoyed several videos, including an amazing talk about fractals.  Do watch it; you will be so glad you did!  (Or at least that’s how my in-real-life friends responded.) It makes me want to adapt Psalm 19:1:

Mathematics declares the glory of God,
Numbers proclaim the works of his hands.

We also read books; in fact, during my rest break I read extensively on several topics, and you can see some of my quick reviews on GoodReads.  Some of the books will be reviewed here eventually, Lord willing.

I hope to be blogging regularly again, one review post a week and one other one, usually about homeschooling.  I also hope to find enough time to visit each of your online homes regularly again, but God has given me another unexpected task besides getting well so the visits may be less frequent.

There are so many unknowns in our lives, and at times God confronts us in our placid everyday-ness and reminds us that each moment is a gift and that we need to enjoy it gratefully, and use it wisely, and never take it for granted.  He is always good to us!

One more thing, if you are looking for a devotional for this season, even though it is a bit late, why not try the St. Matthew Passion by Bach, based on Matthew 26 and 27?  I wrote about it here a few years ago.  Last week we started listening to this version with subtitles, and it is so beautiful!  God is so good to us!  The girls are doing this with me, and we are also using Omnibus V for background and musical information.

May God bless each one of you this week after Easter!

Unanticipated Blogging Break

For a while, dear friends, I have been both busy and unwell, and as a result I now have no more articles ready to publish.  Therefore I am taking an unanticipated blogging break while resting and recuperating.

Fortunately I can read, think, and write while resting, and articles in progress include:

  • Some Reasons to Study Shakespeare
  • Our Multi-Year, Literature-Based Canadian History Course
  • Couch Schooling
  • Review:  King Alfred’s English by Laurie White
  • Review: Career Exploration by Vicki Tillman
  • Review:  The Last Ride by Susan K. Marlow

Sadly, I have no idea when I will be able to complete them and when this blogging break will end.

In the meantime, I wish you all a good Sunday.  May God bless you and your families as you live for him.