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Review: Love Thy Body by Nancy Pearcey

As soon as Love Thy Body arrived, Miss 15 asked permission to read it and ran off with it.  Who better to teach her than Nancy Pearcey?

But after a while she came back.  “I don’t like it. You will, though.” And later, to someone else, she said, “It hits all the hot button topics, every single one of them, and it makes me so mad!”

It makes me mad, too.  How we humans have messed up the world and destroyed so many lives by our stubborn refusal to follow God’s ways!  How Satan has twisted truth and now enjoys the suffering of so many!  But Jesus has come to destroy the devil’s work and that’s good news, the best news in the world.

Nancy Pearcey helps us understand how to share this good news in our society, how to reach out to those whose lives and identities are fractured due to inaccurate ideas of how the world works.

As she puts it, this is a rescue mission, not a culture war:

As we work through controversial moral issues, it is crucial to bear in mind the main goal.  It is not first of all to persuade people to change their behavior.  It is to tear down barriers to becoming Christian. No matter who we are addressing, or what moral issue the person is struggling with, their first need is to hear the gospel and experience the love of God.  The most important question of their life is whether they will have a relationship with the living God that lasts into eternity….

The main reason to address moral issues is that they have become a barrier to even hearing the message of salvation.  People are inundated with rhetoric telling them that the Bible is hateful and hurtful, narrow and negative.  While it’s crucial to be clear about the biblical teaching on sin, the context must be an overall positive message:  that Christianity alone gives the basis for a high view of the value and meaning of the body as a good gift from God.  In our communication with people struggling with moral issues, we need to reach out with a life-giving, life-affirming message.  We should work to draw people in by the beauty of the biblical vision of life. P 260, 261

With this mindset, Pearcey analyses the ideas fuelling abortion, euthanasia, the hook up culture, homosexuality, the transgender movement, and the failure of social contract theory.  It all comes down, she says, to a profound devaluation of the body, driven by personhood theory.  Rather than accepting that God made the body and that it, therefore, is good and meaningful, personhood theory in its many guises suggests that people are not their bodies, being human is not enough to be considered a person, and that, basically, we are fragmented beings whose physicality is at best meaningless and at worst something to objectify, subdue, and overcome.

With compassion and clarity, Pearcey explains how this idea recurs throughout society and demonstrates the havoc it causes in individual lives. She notes that the prevailing paradigm has no way of integrating people’s fractured selves, their minds and their bodies, so that they can become whole again.  Only Christianity can do that.  Throughout her book she gives practical suggestions for reaching out with that good news.

Pearcey also quotes secular philosophers who point out that without a Creator there is no basis for any human rights.  People with power get to make decisions about and for others, decisions that could even mean death for those whose life is ‘not worth living’ according to those with more power. This is considered progress, survival of the fittest.

This idea of a split between the actual reality of who people are (their ‘personhood’) and their bodies has a long, deep background, reaching back at least to Plato and, via his thought, permeating various aspects of Christianity.  Following Descartes who said, “I think therefore I am,” this concept has become one of our day’s powerful philosophies, legitimized by Darwin’s theory of evolution.

Even though the ideas discussed in this book are complex, Love Thy Body is not a terribly difficult read. Pearcey fills it with stories, research results, and careful explanations.  She has taught the material many times to various audiences and has obviously incorporated their feedback into her thought.

Even so, I am planning to read Love Thy Body again soon and perhaps study it with others.  The study guide in the book looks both thorough and helpful.  (If you are local, please let me know if you are interested in studying it this summer.)

I highly recommend Love Thy Body for homeschooling parents and older youth.  Furthermore, it is indispensable for anyone interested in spreading the good news of the gospel, understanding our society, or generating change.  As such it should be in every homeschool and church library and ideally it would also be in all public libraries.

For more information about the duality between body and mind and how it is a reflection of similar dualities throughout Western thought, see Pearcey’s earlier book Total Truth (see my review, our Total Truth summer study).

For those who suggest that these evolution-validated ideas are necessary because ‘evolution is a scientific fact’, there is an alternative view that fits the scientific data much better, the idea that the universe was designed and created, recently.  For more information see my review of No Christian Silence on Science as well as Answers in Genesis and Creation Ministries International.

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Disclosure: This book has been provided courtesy of Baker Publishing Group and Graf-Martin Communications, Inc. and is available at your favorite bookseller.

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8+1 Reasons and 8 Tips for Attending your Homeschool Conference

Are you trying to decide whether or not to attend your local homeschooling conference?  Are you weighing the hassle against the benefits and not sure if it would be worth it?

Let me tell you something.  Going will benefit you in at least 8 ways, and most likely you will be able to bless someone else, too.

So do go if at all possible.  Most likely your homeschool, like everyone else’s, could use a bit of springtime refreshment.  If you prepare properly, and I will give you ideas for that below, your conference will almost certainly benefit your homeschool and you, yourself, as well.

Here are 8+1 reasons to attend your homeschool conference:

  • You will learn a lot, things you had no idea you needed to learn, things that will make a difference to your children.
  • You will be reminded of important concepts you really do know but have almost forgotten, as I was two years ago.
  • You will be encouraged and inspired by wise and godly speakers.
  • You will be able to look at all sorts of resources and curricula and ask questions of knowledgeable people.
  • You might find an educational treat or two, like puzzles, bug kits, or a great historical read aloud.
  • You will connect with old friends and maybe meet new ones.
  • You will be refreshed.
  • You may need a day off more than you think you do.

These are all great reasons to attend, but there is another side to it.

  • Perhaps you will be the listening ear who makes someone else’s day, or the one who smiles encouragement into someone else’s overwhelmed worry, or the person who reminds a weary soul to look to Jesus.

Your local homeschooling conference is a gift to you and your family.  I would even go so far as to say that it is a gift from God.  So, let me say it again, if you can attend, do go.  Don’t let inertia hold you back.

Of course, it will help to plan ahead so things will run smoothly.  Here are 8 things to do before the conference:

  • Decide which talks to attend.
  • Make a list of resources you want to look at and set a budget.  Or decide ahead of time that you will go home and think about your options before buying, if that approach will make your decisions wiser and your day less stressful.
  • Budget for a mommy splurge.  One year I bought Mathematics: Is God Silent? (link to my review) and it opened the world of math/science history and philosophy to me; in fact, it literally changed my life and my kids have benefited, too.  If I manage to go this year, I want to look at Sonya Shafer’s Laying Down the Rails for Yourself, both for me and for my teens, but I may end up buying something completely different that I have never even heard of before.
  • Plan to meet friends you haven’t seen for a while.
  • Eat a good breakfast.
  • Pack a lunch, or plan to splurge on a lunch out.
  • Wear comfortable shoes.
  • Make sure supper is taken care of so you don’t have to worry about it when you get home.

With all that done, off you go!  Enjoy, learn, and be refreshed.  Accept this professional development day with gratitude, looking forward to being encouraged and inspired and to encouraging others.

(Of course, it might impossible for you attend your homeschool conference; it now seems I will not be well enough to attend ours this year, either.  That makes me sad, for I would dearly love to be there.  However, as I wrote three years ago, “Sometimes life seriously gets in the way, and it’s best if we learn to accept that cheerfully and not complain about what God has put in our path.”  I’m working on that cheerful acceptance.  If you are in a similar situation, I pray God will give you peace, trust, and hope, and will refresh you and your homeschool in a different way.)

May God make your homeschool conference a blessing to you and to your family.  May he make you a blessing to others.  And may he bless the organizers and speakers so that Christian homeschoolers in your area will thrive.

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Review: 52 Ways to Connect with Your Smartphone Obsessed Kid by Jonathan McKee

Smartphone use, a huge social experiment that some say is leading to disaster, needs to change.  We all need to learn to be ‘smarter than our smartphones.’  And while we parents are trying to learn this, we need to be teaching our teens as well.  That’s a tall order, especially since the devices are addicting.

While I read this book, I shared the couch with two of my kids and their smart phones.  (Yes, we, too have the problem.)  I asked one of them, as suggested by McKee, if she was addicted to her phone.  She laughed at the idea.   So I suggested we should both do without our phones for two hours, just to prove it.

And, wouldn’t you know it, the moment I said that, I myself began to itch to pick mine up!  Fortunately I had this book to read and was able to easily distract myself with it and other duties, but I was shocked at myself.  My daughter lasted an hour and a half before she absolutely needed to check the weather forecast to know how to get her chickens ready for the night.  Yes, we can both do without our phones for many hours, but if they are close by they exert a surprising pull on us, especially when we are not busy with other things.

I admit, therefore, that we are both addicted to our phones in some sense.  I’m willing to bet you are, too.  Not convinced?  Just try leaving it sitting out somewhere where you can see it while committing to ignore it for several hours.

Now, with that established, how are we to help our kids master their cell phones? We parents need to learn to leave ours alone, but we can’t wait to teach our kids until we are perfect.  It’s just like all of parenting—we need to set a good example, but we can’t ignore our kids’ issues until we ourselves are issue-free.

And that’s where McKee’s 52 Ways to Connect with Your Smartphone Obsessed Kid comes in.  With humor, data, and stories from his own family and his decades as a youth pastor, McKee presents practical and helpful suggestions.  Of course, not all of them will work for everyone, and he emphasizes that we parents need to see what resonates with our teens.  But reading the suggestions is like an infusion of hope and fun.   From simple coffee dates to buying a puppy, from family docking stations to camping without wifi, there are ideas here for everyone.

McKee begins his book with a brief discussion of cell phone statistics and research, concluding that ‘we need to help teenagers move from being tech dependent to being tech enabled.’  Then he follows that up with 52 practical ideas (or slightly crazy ones, like buying a tandem bike) that he explains and supports.  The’ Questions to Ponder’ give both guidance and encouragement.  Finally, the book ends with a very brief summary of each chapter and a few engaging questions for each venue to encourage meaningful conversation with your teens.

Did this book teach me anything new?  Not really. What it did do was remind me of things I had thought about before.  More than that, it gave me tools I can use to actually make more of these things happen. For example, the idea, above, of seeing whether or not my daughter was addicted to her phone was sparked by this book.  Even beyond that, it was helpful to see the wise parenting slogan ‘both bonding and boundaries’ applied creatively to kids and smartphones.

The tricky thing for me will be to remember these ideas and make some of them happen.  I have put a reminder in my phone (!) to apply these concepts regularly.

If your kids spend a fair bit of time on their cellphones—or if they grab them the moment they are allowed to—you might want to read 52 Ways to Connect with Your Smartphone Obsessed Kid.  This is a book worth requesting for your public, homeschooling, and church libraries so that it can benefit your communities as well as your family.

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Disclosure:  We received a review copy from Jonathan McKee.

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The Homeschool Garden

Over the years, gardening has become part of our identity and it has hugely influenced all of us, in terms of learning as well as food, flowers, and skills.  So, when Tricia at The Curriculum Choice was looking for someone to host a feature about gardening and homeschooling, I jumped at the chance.

What an opportunity to scroll through all our gardening posts and pictures!  What memories! For example, this photo of Miss 15’s morning glories reminds me of her patience after last year’s concussion as she quietly designed flower gardens instead of complaining or crying.

And what a joy to be able to share my conviction that gardening is important—after all, the first place God put people was in a garden.  Now, we know that the future paradise involves a city, a ‘people garden’ rather than a plant garden, but that does not take away God’s original command to subdue the physical earth: we are called to work with, understand, use, care for, and appreciate our own little patches of the earth as well as the whole planet.  Gardening is one key to discerning what all that means, and it also gives us insight into God’s work in preparing the ‘people garden,’ as many of Jesus’ parables show.

In a slightly different vein, gardening is a deeply philosophical and religious activity.  God created the world and therefore it (and people) matter simply by the fact that God made them. Not everyone believes this.  Personhood theory, the idea that human beings are valuable only when they have some characteristics besides their biological humanity, is how this is expressed with respect to people.  I don’t know how the related concept is expressed for the rest of the created world, but this I know:  God made the world originally, upholds it now, and will renew it eventually.  Because he values it, so must we.  Because he told us to be busy with it, to learn about him through it, and to thank him for it, we ignore the created world at our peril.  And gardening is one way to address this.

On the other hand, we do not worship the created world as some do, but the One who made it all, the One who is busy restoring it after we humans plunged it into decay.  Soli Deo Gloria!

So, here’s my introduction to “The Homeschool Garden” on The Curriculum Choice, a much more practical article that grows out of these ideas.

As the world comes alive again, what better way to teach our children about nature, food, hands-on history, and practical skills than by gardening?  Whether we do a formal study or make gardening a purely hands-on project, our children will learn.  And whether or not our children end up being gardeners, the knowledge, the work itself, and the skills will benefit them in unexpected ways.  For example, each of our children has earned money gardening for others, and one even sent me a note from an archeological dig in the Mediterranean thanking me for all the digging in the garden we had done together.

Although we aspire to rigorous homeschooling I think that some of our most important lessons have been learned while gardening.  We do not formally combine gardening with lesson plans, but the simple acts of choosing and starting seeds, planning the garden layout, improving the soil, planting and weeding, managing and simplifying the work, and harvesting involve a great deal of learning.  We learn about plants and weeds, about how people throughout the ages have had to work for their food, about ourselves and each other, and about the magnificent world we live in.  In our gardening journey we started from nothing.  You can, too.

There was the year I told my husband that we couldn’t possibly have a garden as well as homeschool because There is Too Much to Do.  We discovered that gardening taught us lessons as valuable as any we’ve ever learned from school books.

Sometimes Homeschool Gardening is a break from book learning; sometimes it surpasses it.

As we work in our garden, we are close to the people who worked our soil in the 200 years it has been farmed, as well as to other food growers throughout the world.  Here are some resources we have loved while Learning about the Fascinating World of Farming.

The things we learned years ago from being Gardening Homeschoolers still benefit us today.

I love teaching my children that bugs can be managed with a simple Safe, Effective, Almost-Free Bug Spray that they can make themselves.

For contributions from other veteran homeschooling gardeners, you can continue reading at “The Homeschool Garden“.

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Review: Irenaeus of Lyon by Simonetta Carr

As we look ahead to Good Friday and Easter, it is good to remember that the Bible tells us all we need to know about our salvation and about how to be thankful for it.  We do not need to wait for special revelations or hidden messages.  We just  need to humbly accept God’s Word.

Irenaeus taught that, and more, many hundreds of years ago.

Young Irenaeus, born around 130 AD, was taught by Polycarp who “had studied under the apostle John and had met others who had been with Jesus.”  Besides getting the usual classical education of his time, Irenaeus thus also learned to really understand the Bible.

However, during his days there were those, now called Gnostics, who said that real Christianity involved mysteries that were not part of the Bible. Simonetta writes, “Their message was tempting, because gaining higher knowledge seemed more exciting than admitting that human beings are limited and have to depend on God’s written revelation.

Irenaeus studied these ideas extensively and, despite persecutions as well as disagreements among Christians, he remained faithful to the Bible.  In fact, he worked so hard to understand the confusing teachings that he was asked to write a book to explain them and show how they differed from the Bible. His book, Against Heresies, summarized both Gnostic teachings and Christian thought, exposing the foolishness of Gnostic ideas with humor and clarity.

Weaving in the stories of Polycarp, Blandina, and others, Simonetta tells a tale of faithfulness, confusion, persecution, and mission.  Photographs and Matt Abraxas’s stunning illustrations add visual appeal and details to this story of Irenaeus and his times.  Even so, to the author’s surprise, her Sunday school class found the theological portions of this book the most thrilling and exciting of all.

I am in awe of what Simonetta has been able to do with the story of Irenaeus. Even though little is known about his life, she was able to write a compelling and factual story about those around him and about his writings.  Essentially Irenaeus of Lyon is a history of early theology for children and, as Simonetta’s Sunday school class showed, kids like it.  Teens and adults will also enjoy this introduction to Irenaeus and his wisdom.  In fact, any Christian who absorbs the things written in this book will benefit hugely and be able to detect false teachings much more easily.

Even though Irenaeus of Lyon is written for ages 7-12, it can teach Christians of all ages important and timeless lessons.  I certainly learned a lot.

Note:  In the first edition of this book Lyon has been misplaced on the map on page 4 (it is actually under the ‘u’ of Gaul); this will be corrected in future editions.  You can see the correct map here.

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Disclosure:  We received a review copy from Simonetta Carr and Reformation Heritage Books.

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